My name is N., I am a woman, a wife, and a mother of two children. Everything seemed fine from the outside, but I had been going through crises in my marriage for years. Like a vicious circle, always at a time when everything seems to be going well, a harmless argument that turns into a crisis. From crisis to crisis over all these years, we reached the point where it was impossible to communicate. During our last crisis and in total misunderstanding, my husband said to me “It’s over between us!” He asked for a divorce. Before reaching this ultimate conclusion of our story, we contacted Halima.
During our meeting, I was a spectator, revealing very little and Halima immediately felt the weight on me even though I expressed nothing. This was the beginning of our individual and couple accompaniment. We worked on my traumas with visualization and EMDR (which I was discovering at that time). I started individual sessions with Halima. My husband then also had individual sessions and we continued the work as a couple.
We were both injured, each of us had to be accompanied to repair our wounds. This step was essential for us to be able to rebuild something together later. Halima accompanied me gently, she made me face my responsibilities. Throughout our sessions, as I became aware, when I was ready, she also pushed me gently so that things would change, to help me remove all these veils and connect to myself.
Our accompaniment ended with music therapy sessions with HIPERION. This allowed us to go deeper and then exchange our feelings and observations of change. These sessions aimed to bring me a sense of security that would allow me to open up to others and the world. It was important for me during these last sessions to be able to verbalize what I could observe and to be accompanied by Halima at that time to understand and become aware of my openness to the world.
“Our sessions were constructive, I became aware that the traumas of my childhood and not only, had anchored in my beliefs truths that had no place to be and that ultimately limited my field of vision and God knows there were many. Halima is able to pinpoint our wounds and does the work of accompanying us so that we become aware of them. She pushes us to think. It was not an easy task to go deep within oneself, to look in a mirror. I had very strong moments of awareness, full of emotion and tears but such liberation.
Yes, these moments of awareness hurt me, made me cry but they were so beneficial. I sometimes wondered during this accompaniment, before a session ‘What will I be able to say today? And Halima with her questioning, visualization and/or EMDR would end up bringing things that I did not even suspect. So much that I couldn’t write it down but I understood that there were things that couldn’t be learned in books, that things had to be experienced.
The very strong awareness of one’s deep self brings us the value of who we are. This ultimate crisis in our couple was in reality a great blessing from Allah. It allowed us, thanks to Halima’s precious help, to know each other more deeply. I discovered myself.
I was afraid of people, of their gaze, of the image that I could reflect. Today, my well-being is the most important thing to me. This accompaniment allowed me to meet Najat, the sensitive, full of heart, generous and full of love. And this meeting with my deep self was possible thanks to Halima’s specific accompaniment. There is no chance in life, there are only encounters. Allah puts on our paths the people who will help us grow or bring us what we need. Halima accompanied us to identify our wounds, to become aware of them, to connect to our deep self and to evolve.
Today, we are a reconnected couple, we walk together while continuing to evolve. And we haven’t had any crises since but as I am not the sleeping beauty and he is not the prince charming, we still argue but with understanding of each other. This accompaniment was beneficial for us as individuals, for our couple but also for our two children.”
N.
